The senior child — all the same still the child
It is published: 08-10-2008Headings: 2-godki, education, mamskoe
Growing - devilishly difficult piece.
It is much easier to pass from one childhood in another.
(Frensis Scott Fitzgerald)
As soon as in a family there is a second child, the first-born becomes at once the senior. Against the newborn parents and associates involuntarily perceive the first-born as more adult and independent. Even if the age difference makes only one and a half-two year.
Alas, it so. I, for example, do not represent, that my senior daughter in 2,5 years went on walk to park on foot. Younger, in it 2,5 I drive there only on a carriage. After all it so is far! And so almost in all.
There are in such “effect of a fast growing” pluses. Senior children, as a rule, are more developed, responsible, independent, organizovanny.
There are also minuses in the form of uneasiness concerning that now parents love younger more, insults, jealousy.
What it is possible to make, that all were happy?
Certainly it is necessary to prepare the senior for a birth of the younger. The beginning of a joint life is very important for formation of relations between children in the future.
Do not compare children. Especially aloud. Each of them is good in own way. One has early started to read, and another to draw. Compare the child with itself — yesterday's and today's.
Find within day time for each child. Necessarily will pay attention both senior and younger. (Both to an average. And to the second average.) individually.
Buy younger new things. At least sometimes. Even if the inheritance from the senior big and almost new.
Try, at least in words, to demand from all children equally. “Girls, it is time to sleep, clean toys!” Even if to the younger girl of all half a year, beat, as though it helps the little sister to clean. For senior it will be very important.
Carry a carriage one hand, and the second do not forget to hold the senior for a hand.
It is ideal to give to children two toys, and it is better identical. To co-operate, share and play by turns one toy they and so will learn in a kindergarten and on platforms. And houses will be less occasions to sharings and insults, that at the brother the machine is better.
Do as much as possible affairs together. Let participation of the younger lock in building will be minimum, but all the same you will construct this lock together. And then discuss, as it is healthy and cheerful, and what all of you good fellows.
Very much pull together children of game and employment in whom to one something learns the second. The senior younger, and then and younger the senior. My children adore such games. I in every possible way admire both the teacher and the pupil, and they are thrilled with such attention and with pleasure hurry up to learn each other to something else.
Two, three and more children in a family is at all a problem, and norm. To bring up two children is much easier, than one. It is just necessary to remember always the one whom you raise — friends or the enemies, the people most close and expensive for each other or competitors. And if parents a droplet try, in the future brothers and sisters will recollect all fights and sharings only with a kind smile.
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