Age difference 2 years - the beginning of a joint life
It is published: 16-01-2008Headings: 2-godki, education, mamskoe
So, in a family the second kid was born. Thus the "senior" child too still absolutely small - to it about two years.
How to lay the foundation for strong and friendly relations between children? How not to provoke jealousy and eternal competitive struggle for a place under the sun?
My councils from own successful experience - for the first days and months of a "joint" life:
- The senior child, certainly became seniors, but thus remained absolutely still the kid. Therefore it is better not to use a word "senior". I named daughters "small" and "small". It was insulting to Nobody. (For convenience I write in this article a word "senior")
- To the senior child it is the now most difficult. Therefore the main attention should be given to it. That it at all has not begun to doubt in parental love. Has not decided, that a part of this love from it have taken away (most part). Therefore starajtel it is as much as possible time to spend with the senior. Embrace, talk, tell something light and joyful, read, walk and at all do not push away. Let it lays nearby when you feed the younger. Sleep together. On walks necessarily go for the handle. As it is possible address to the senior child is more often, offer the dialogue, pay attention to the smallest trifles in his life, encourage and praise.
- At the first meeting after maternity home (if there was a parting), present to the senior kid any gift. And first of all embrace him. The newborn kulyochek let hand over to the daddy. And let relatives and other meeting uljuljukajut over it. Mum should be with the senior kid. It very much missed in separation and does not understand, that for vanity occurs around. Tell about, how missed it how to be happy again together. What it the clear head, that well conducted itself. As you love it and are proud of it. Embrace him, be with it. At all do not give to grandmothers.
- Warn all relatives and friends that they have prepared gifts not only for the newborn, but also for the senior kid. Also have necessarily congratulated HIM on a birth of the sister/brother.
- If there is an occasion to a cake (a pie, sweets and other prijatnostej), cut off four slices - mum, the daddy, senior and younger. Also explain, that as younger still absolutely small and cakes does not eat - he will share the slice with the brother/sister. This small cunning very much helps in further to learn children to share - after all the senior thus on the sly gets acquainted with "sharing" in the pleasant form.
- Do not send the senior to grandmothers. Let better grandmothers will take a walk with a carriage while the younger sleeps, and you will spend this time with the senior kid - after all it now very much misses on such dialogue "one-on-one", the younger.
- Well and it is final, as it is possible tell to children more often and more joyfully - as you are happy, that they at you are. What remarkable family at you as you love all and as well to you is together! After all it indeed. Also it is the main thing.
These banal at first sight trifles are very important for a bookmark of strong, close and not disputed relations between yours 2годками.
